Tricia Here,
So I stood up in my first wedding ever last night. It was lots of fun getting the bride (my best friend growing up) ready and Getting ourselves ready (all of us bridesmaids) I hope i am as calm as Jenny when it came to the details and the way she calmly handled any out of control circumstances. She had a very wonderful sit dawn dinner and a wedding on the canal. Not too far from where my reception will be. There was dancing and a photo booth, which i STILL think is the coolest idea ever, i liked her photos better than at The last reception i went to, but i liked the scrapbook pages better and the prop idea from the first one. So yeah. But it was nifty regardless!
Today i am supposed to go out with my mom and NIK to look at colors and get ideas for centerpieces and thank you gifts for the so called unofficial "wedding party" that i need to officially define and figure out expectations for and them discuss with the ppl (and NIK has to decide WHO pas the one person...) but yeah.......
I am in the process of figuring out the photo shoot for the engagement pictures. (THANKYOU TOM)
and i should have some pictures able to be put up soon, cause i have them on camera And will find a way to get them transfered to this comp cause i do NOT want to loose them!
So im off to get ready and plan!
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Ummm..... little help maybe?
tricia here,
HOW is one supposed to organize a budget when one has no idea what some of the things on the list are and let alone what to guess to spend... I tried with the help of a website, (really nice one) but whats a reasonable cake price, or what not... ahh well, i filled it out as best i could, and am about $200 less than nick gave me as a minimum goal of his savings for the event... thats good... and it looks like we have a decent catering budget too...
looking like I will have a new job to help save up too... long story tell you when i know more.
there was something else........ well i guess there always will be wither i know it or not so i will just tell you guys later if its important enough to remember...
HOW is one supposed to organize a budget when one has no idea what some of the things on the list are and let alone what to guess to spend... I tried with the help of a website, (really nice one) but whats a reasonable cake price, or what not... ahh well, i filled it out as best i could, and am about $200 less than nick gave me as a minimum goal of his savings for the event... thats good... and it looks like we have a decent catering budget too...
looking like I will have a new job to help save up too... long story tell you when i know more.
there was something else........ well i guess there always will be wither i know it or not so i will just tell you guys later if its important enough to remember...
Monday, September 13, 2010
THANK YOU JANET!
This is a link , and then quote from what Janet sent me today. It is about all of the people involved with the wedding and the feelings that are normal, like doubt, grief worry and how everyone con help or understand everyone involved... It is designed towards the LDS weddings and i have quoted some stuff it directs to the non-LDS since we have both types of people in our situation.
getting hitched without a hitch
"Nonmember Friends and Family
Perhaps you are not a member of the LDS Church and you’ve waited years to see your daughter, son, niece, nephew, or friend promise his or her life to another. It may come as shock and disappointment when your LDS loved one tells you that he or she has chosen to get married in a temple—and that only LDS members in good standing with the Church may attend. It can be difficult to understand why your family member or friend would choose to exclude people on their wedding day, but it’s important to try.
Ask your loved one why they are getting married in the temple. He or she will probably be happy to explain to you why the temple marriage ceremony is so important to them. If you are interested, someone might be able to set up an informal chat with a bishop or a member of the bishopric so that you can ask specific questions that the bride and groom may not be able to answer.
"The Big Issues
"Not being included in the wedding ceremony. This is one of the most difficult things for people not of the LDS faith to understand and accept. Nonmembers tend to view temple weddings as exclusive, or even secretive. Not having the opportunity to witness the wedding ceremony can be very hurtful for a parent, relative, or close friend. However, it is important to remember that the bride and groom aren’t choosing to keep you out of the ceremony—they are just choosing to have a temple ceremony. Even if none of their friends and family were able to attend, they would probably still choose to have a temple wedding, because it’s not about the people there—it’s about the eternal promises that they are making to each other.
"Elaine Gray, an Elk Grove, California, resident who is not a member of the Church, experienced this when her son, Charles, was married in the temple. He had become a member of the Church while he was a teenager, and Gray learned from a friend that nonmembers were not allowed in the temple for the sealing ceremony. “When [Charles] proposed to Jenna, he told me they were going to get married in the temple. It was pretty devastating,” says Gray. “But I went to my LDS friend, and I spoke to her about it. She said that I could visit a temple that hadn’t been dedicated yet and go inside. There was a new temple a couple hours away that hadn’t been dedicated yet, and we took a tour. It was very emotional, and [the guides] told me about the wedding ceremony—it sounded beautiful. When we went to Oakland [on their wedding day], I had that visual of Charlie and Jenna kneeling at the altar. I could see it all. But it was still really hard [not to be there].”
"Gray feels that parents need to respect their children’s decision on the day of their wedding, even if the wedding goes against their parents’ wishes. “I think people need to not worry about themselves so much. We have to set ourselves aside and say, ‘this is our child,’ and let them think for themselves.”
"If you are unable to tour a temple, visit lds.org and click on “Family History and Temples,” then “Purpose of Temples.” Here, you can find several articles written on the purpose and importance of temples by some of the leading Church authorities. These will help you understand why the bride and groom made the choice to have a temple wedding.
"Victims of missionary overkill. Many nonmembers fear being cornered by well-meaning friends or relatives when they attend LDS wedding receptions. Members of the Church are encouraged to share the gospel, and if they share it with you, it’s because they care about you. If you’re not interested in hearing about their beliefs, be patient and kindly say so. If they persist, tell them that you are here to celebrate the wedding, and now is not the time for a missionary discussion.
"For Friends and Family: How to Help Nonmember Loved Ones
"Be honest and open with those unable to attend the ceremony. Be kind and take into account the hurt they may be feeling, but don’t be apologetic—tell them how excited you are that you are getting married in the House of the Lord.
"When creating your guest list for the temple, keep it limited. All temple sealings should have a small guest list, as it is a very personal ceremony, but when nonmember loved ones are involved, the list should be made even shorter. Avoid inviting extended family and friends so as not to wound feelings further.
"One of the most popular options for couples with a lot of nonmember family and friends is to have a ring ceremony later in the day, apart from the temple ceremony. Ring ceremonies may not take place on the temple grounds, and should not be treated as a faux wedding, but can still be a wonderful way to include non-LDS family members and friends. Ask your bishop about what the ceremony should entail.
"No matter your part in the wedding, do all in your power to make it joyous. Plan ahead—emotionally as well as practically. Accept and acknowledge the magnitude of matrimony and the many feelings that accompany it. Most of all, be patient with and loving to yourself and others. Tremendous change yields tremendous growth. And what growth is more wondrous than the creation of a new family unit, the marriage of a loving man and woman? Your wedding day really can be the happiest day of your life!"
getting hitched without a hitch
"Nonmember Friends and Family
Perhaps you are not a member of the LDS Church and you’ve waited years to see your daughter, son, niece, nephew, or friend promise his or her life to another. It may come as shock and disappointment when your LDS loved one tells you that he or she has chosen to get married in a temple—and that only LDS members in good standing with the Church may attend. It can be difficult to understand why your family member or friend would choose to exclude people on their wedding day, but it’s important to try.
Ask your loved one why they are getting married in the temple. He or she will probably be happy to explain to you why the temple marriage ceremony is so important to them. If you are interested, someone might be able to set up an informal chat with a bishop or a member of the bishopric so that you can ask specific questions that the bride and groom may not be able to answer.
"The Big Issues
"Not being included in the wedding ceremony. This is one of the most difficult things for people not of the LDS faith to understand and accept. Nonmembers tend to view temple weddings as exclusive, or even secretive. Not having the opportunity to witness the wedding ceremony can be very hurtful for a parent, relative, or close friend. However, it is important to remember that the bride and groom aren’t choosing to keep you out of the ceremony—they are just choosing to have a temple ceremony. Even if none of their friends and family were able to attend, they would probably still choose to have a temple wedding, because it’s not about the people there—it’s about the eternal promises that they are making to each other.
"Elaine Gray, an Elk Grove, California, resident who is not a member of the Church, experienced this when her son, Charles, was married in the temple. He had become a member of the Church while he was a teenager, and Gray learned from a friend that nonmembers were not allowed in the temple for the sealing ceremony. “When [Charles] proposed to Jenna, he told me they were going to get married in the temple. It was pretty devastating,” says Gray. “But I went to my LDS friend, and I spoke to her about it. She said that I could visit a temple that hadn’t been dedicated yet and go inside. There was a new temple a couple hours away that hadn’t been dedicated yet, and we took a tour. It was very emotional, and [the guides] told me about the wedding ceremony—it sounded beautiful. When we went to Oakland [on their wedding day], I had that visual of Charlie and Jenna kneeling at the altar. I could see it all. But it was still really hard [not to be there].”
"Gray feels that parents need to respect their children’s decision on the day of their wedding, even if the wedding goes against their parents’ wishes. “I think people need to not worry about themselves so much. We have to set ourselves aside and say, ‘this is our child,’ and let them think for themselves.”
"If you are unable to tour a temple, visit lds.org and click on “Family History and Temples,” then “Purpose of Temples.” Here, you can find several articles written on the purpose and importance of temples by some of the leading Church authorities. These will help you understand why the bride and groom made the choice to have a temple wedding.
"Victims of missionary overkill. Many nonmembers fear being cornered by well-meaning friends or relatives when they attend LDS wedding receptions. Members of the Church are encouraged to share the gospel, and if they share it with you, it’s because they care about you. If you’re not interested in hearing about their beliefs, be patient and kindly say so. If they persist, tell them that you are here to celebrate the wedding, and now is not the time for a missionary discussion.
"For Friends and Family: How to Help Nonmember Loved Ones
"Be honest and open with those unable to attend the ceremony. Be kind and take into account the hurt they may be feeling, but don’t be apologetic—tell them how excited you are that you are getting married in the House of the Lord.
"When creating your guest list for the temple, keep it limited. All temple sealings should have a small guest list, as it is a very personal ceremony, but when nonmember loved ones are involved, the list should be made even shorter. Avoid inviting extended family and friends so as not to wound feelings further.
"One of the most popular options for couples with a lot of nonmember family and friends is to have a ring ceremony later in the day, apart from the temple ceremony. Ring ceremonies may not take place on the temple grounds, and should not be treated as a faux wedding, but can still be a wonderful way to include non-LDS family members and friends. Ask your bishop about what the ceremony should entail.
"No matter your part in the wedding, do all in your power to make it joyous. Plan ahead—emotionally as well as practically. Accept and acknowledge the magnitude of matrimony and the many feelings that accompany it. Most of all, be patient with and loving to yourself and others. Tremendous change yields tremendous growth. And what growth is more wondrous than the creation of a new family unit, the marriage of a loving man and woman? Your wedding day really can be the happiest day of your life!"
Here we go!!
Tricia here,
So I am excited and ready to get this thing moving. NIK and I have finally decided on our goal budget for the reception (well he has and I said what ever you want because he's paying -wink-) and so I feel much better about getting started. I have my dress budget (since me and my late great grand-pa are getting that) and now all thats left is honeymoon and housing as far as goal targets are concerned!
A while back Janet took my mind off some stress by informing me (yes informing... in that don't-argue-with-me tone) that she will be organizing my shower. Much thanks and no complaints!
That is all I have for right now, minding that I am neglecting the last few paragraphs of my homework assignment.
OH! the plan is on Saturday to go get some color swatches for our color scheme and maybe get some of the supplies for making my baskets.
p.s. picnic theme
So I am excited and ready to get this thing moving. NIK and I have finally decided on our goal budget for the reception (well he has and I said what ever you want because he's paying -wink-) and so I feel much better about getting started. I have my dress budget (since me and my late great grand-pa are getting that) and now all thats left is honeymoon and housing as far as goal targets are concerned!
A while back Janet took my mind off some stress by informing me (yes informing... in that don't-argue-with-me tone) that she will be organizing my shower. Much thanks and no complaints!
That is all I have for right now, minding that I am neglecting the last few paragraphs of my homework assignment.
OH! the plan is on Saturday to go get some color swatches for our color scheme and maybe get some of the supplies for making my baskets.
p.s. picnic theme
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